Babies

Crying Infants and Moral Judgments

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crying baby As my daughter Katie Grace just had her 13th birthday (happy, happy birthday, darling girl!)and as I’ve been spending quite a bit of time in the Infant Wing at school,  I’ve been thinking a lot about babies and crying and our discomfort with hearing their cries. More specifically, about the moral significance we seem to place on crying babies and the judgment we heap on their parents.

Tickle Rhymes for Little Ones

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Hello! It’s been a while, hasn’t it?

There have been a lot of changes around here. If I can ever find a way to explain it all, I will eventually, but for now I’ll give the short and sweet bullet-points version

  • We are schooling four different ways, which is enough to make my head spin. The youngest two are spending their days with my friend who also has three little ones and are having an amazing time. The middle two are at our local elementary school a couple of blocks away and are adjusting nicely. Oldest daughter is homeschooling using Palomar K12 and oldest son is cyberschooling and will be going to CAPA, the public arts magnet school, next year. I’m so proud of all of them.
Simple Toys for Sweet Babies

6 kids in, I consider myself somewhat experienced in the area of toys and children. We’re currently going through a season of clearing out and simplifying, and I thought I would share with you some of what I consider indispensible toys, especially as we are in the thick of the gift-giving season. Here are a few things I consider to be essentials for sweet little babies.

Teether blanket playsilk 
Daniel with the essential three: a blanky, a playsilk, and a teether/rattle.

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In a slight departure from our Little League week, I wanted to share some ideas for those of you with itty bitties as well as preschoolers. Sometimes it seems difficult to have circle time with little babies crawling about. And yet I feel that circle time is one of the most important, sweetest times of the day. Here are some ideas to add your littlest family members to your circle.

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We love to sing this for the babies, especially Ms. Molly with an appropriate name change!

Once again, looking at the lyrics it’s probably not the most appropriate baby song in the universe.

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There’s a version of this by Sweet Honey on the Rock that I love, but since it’s about someone who “done got drowned” it’s probably not the most appropriate lullaby, even by my standards. So I changed up the lyrics a bit. If you listen carefully, you might even hear Molly and Matthew cooing in the background.

Deep Blue Sea (click to listen)

Personalizing songs is such a great way to connect with your little ones.

I love singing this one to the babies, and love that I was able to find a clip of Dixie Chicks singing it!

How long do you want to be loved?
Is forever enough? Is forever enough?
How long do you want to be loved?
Is forever enough
Cause I’m never, never giving you up.

I hold you in my arms,
You lie there safe and warm.
Upon my heart your head you lay-
“Bum- bum- bum” you hear it say.
Listen now, my little dove.
“Bum- bum- bum” so sounds my love.
“Bum- bum- bum” so sounds my love.

Photo taken by Nicholas

In light of my struggles with my heart after the babies were born, this gentle verse from Giving Love, Bringing Joy takes on new meaning. I am so blessed to have my two little babies to hold to my heart and teach about Love.


Let your tears come. Let them water your soul. ~Eileen Mayhew

There’s something within us that abhors tears. We’ve been conditioned to stop them–both our own and others– at any cost.

A crying baby is like nails on a chalkboard, and our society seems to have adopted two tacts for dealing: let the baby cry it out somewhere alone, or stop the baby from crying at all.