Lately I’ve been thinking of vocation and life and my bloggy purpose. You see, I will admit to you that I suffer from Blog Envy. It’s enough of a common occurrence that I see Blog Envy itself blogged about fairly often, usually by those of us who aren’t crafty or can’t quite figure out how to take breathtakingly beautiful pictures… or, in my case, both.
You know the drill… don’t be jealous of other people’s online lives. Remember that people only blog about the beautiful stuff. Very rarely do you see the craft fails, the messy rooms, a daily recounting of the bad days. You’ve heard it before.
I am going to go one step further and share with you a recent insight that is going to revolutionize my life, or at least so I hope. I’m about to lay down some real knowledge that practically came to me on the wings of angels with heavenly choirs singing in the background.
Are you ready?
OK, listen up.
You CAN’T have it all.
Seriously. You just can’t.
You can’t have the perfect Waldorf homeschool AND a perfectly clean home AND wonderful perfect handcooked organic meals AND be the perfect wife and mother AND glide through your day in a state of perfect peace.
Really, you just can’t.
And it doesn’t matter how hard you try or how badly you want it, you just can’t.
It’s not a matter of setting your will.
It’s not a matter of getting your ducks in a row.
It’s not a matter of wanting it bad enough. As my grandma used to say, God rest her soul, “If wishes were pigs, bacon would always be on sale.”
Because– and here’s the kicker– life is messy. Not a little bit messy like when you run up to the bathroom quick and your kid overturns a basket of toys, but A LOT messy, like when you disappear upstairs to grab an hour or two of naptime with the babies and your husband made the television disappear because he was tired of them fighting over the Wii and your kids decide that they’d like nothing better than to surprise you with something that involved yogurt, eggs, and your living room rug.
You only have so much to give. Honest. Time? Energy? Money? Patience? All finite resources. Eventually, you will run out and will need to replenish. Yes, even you, Perfect Blogger with the Perfect House and Perfect Children.
How do those perfect online mamas do it? I honestly don’t know. I wish I did. I’d love for them to run a free online workshop. Of course, while I was busy listening to it my children would probably stage a coup and take over the house or something.
Ms. Frizzle of Magic School Bus fame often exhorted her students to “Take chances, make mistakes, get messy!” I swear, I need to cross stitch this on a sampler and staple it to my forehead.
No, you can’t have it all.
You can’t have someone else’s life.
But you can make yours your own, and embrace it, warts, hardships, challenges and all.
Strive for the best, but along the way don’t be afraid to take chances.
And then take some pictures and post them so I don’t feel so alone.