The Day I Became a “Yes Mom”


Don’t forget to enter the Spring Seasons of Joy Giveaway!

As I’ve written before, I’m working hard on getting the children to accept me being in charge again. They’re fabulous children, but after running feral for a year they do need a bit of reigning in.

One of the things we’re working on is having them let us know they hear us with a “Yes, Dad!” or “OK, Mom!” It’s basic courtesy, really, and saves me the frustration of repeating myself in louder and louder tones until I wake a baby, only to find out they were off doing what I asked anyway. The next step will be having them acknowledge us without attitude or eye rolling.

While I was contemplating how to make this happen, I came across two different blog posts: “Be a Yes Mom” at Raising Olives and “To Be More Joyful: Be a Yes Mom” at Life As Mom. They both kind of rocked my world. Since Saturday, I’ve been asking myself Kimberly’s “Yes Mom” questions whenever the kids ask me something: Is there a real reason to say no? Are they supposed to be doing something else?I’ve added my own third question: Does it violate some sort of long-standing family rule? Because much as I love my kids, I recognize that they have a habit of pushing limits.

When I first started, I was shocked at how often I either (a) defaulted to no or (b) hedged my bets with a “we’ll see.” I think I really confused the kids, too, because they would ask me something and I would start at “no,” quickly catch myself and change to a “we’ll see” and then follow it up with a “yes” so quick it made their little heads spin.

I like to keep them on their toes.

Now, five days into the Grand Experiment, I am catching myself smiling and saying yes more often. And while we haven’t had any SuperMoments– they mostly ask for pretty mundane but lovely things, like reading a picture book or an extra chapter of our read aloud– it feels good to have my default set to yes.

I’ve noticed something else as well. The more I say yes to them, the easier it is for them to say yes to me. We might come out of this whole experience civilized after all.


  1. //

    I need to read those blog posts. I know I default to no too often, mostly from laziness or stubbornness [NO, I made a plan and I’m sticking to it!!!], but I hate to be so negative.

  2. //

    Oh, i like this. i reeeeeeally like this.

Comments are closed.